Boosting Our Self Esteem(adapted from Rabbi Y. Goldman)
How do we develop confidence when we don't have it? How do we overcome fear, nerves and anxieties? Well, without going into major psychological dissertations (which I'm not qualified to do in the first place), let's see if we can find some insight in this week's Torah reading.
Everything was set for the inauguration of the sacred service in the Sanctuary. The week-long preparations had been completed. Now it was Aaron's turn to approach the altar and begin the service. But Aaron was reluctant. He still felt a sense of shame for his part in creating the Golden Calf. So Moshe calls out to Aaron: "Approach the altar and perform the services." (Leviticus 9:7). Aaron did so and completed all the required tasks correctly.
But what exactly did Moshe say to Aaron to assuage his fears? All he said was "Come and do your thing." He never actually dealt with his issues. How did he address his concerns, his feelings of inadequacy?
Perhaps, Moshe was saying: Come and do, and all your fears will be stilled. You lack confidence? Start performing the services and you will see that it fits you like a glove. You were born to be a High Priest and that's where you belong.
While conventional wisdom tells our children’s self confidence will be boosted by compliments, attention, and goodies, Judaism teaches us that a feeling of self worth can only come from DOING the right thing and making a difference
Moses was telling Aaron that if he would begin performing his chosen role, the rest would follow. As they say in Yiddish, Apetit kumt mit'n essen. Even if you're not hungry, if you start eating, your appetite will follow. I suppose that's why the first course in a meal is called an "appetizer." (Trust Jews when it comes to food.)
Dr. Moses was dispensing sound psychological advice. The surest way of developing confidence is to begin doing that which you fear.
Perhaps this applies to us in our Jewish lives as well. I know many people who are reluctant to get involved and intimidated by Judaism only because they are not confident enough about synagogue protocol or their Hebrew literacy.
So on this Shabbat, as we’re going to read Moshe’s sound advice, let’s try taking it to heart. We will find that the most gratifying part of our lives would never have been ours if we didn’t – JUST DO IT!
"Come and do" said Moshe to his humble and hesitant brother. Aaron came and did and the rest is history.
Shabbat Shalom,
Rabbi Raleigh Resnick
